Betsey, our first child, a daughter was stillborn. I can grieve with you on the loss of your daughter. I am so sorry you are experiencing this pain. Do talk as much as you need. It is one thing that does help. Do what you need to do for yourself during this time--as long as it is safe and does not harm you or anyone else--Don't let anyone tell you how to grieve. You know what you need and if you make that known to those closest to you they can help.
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