Hi Peaches! Nice to meet you! I think you've been getting some great feed back, but I just wanted to add a couple things I thought of.
First of all, I really agree that "healing" is not a black and white proposition. To say that you're "healed", may not be something I or anyone else could do, but instead I aim for being "well." I think of it like having a chronic illness, like diabetes. If you work every day to regulate your eating, test your blood sugar a lot, take insulin the way you're supposed to, ect., you can be well every day! You still have diabetes, but that doesn't mean you're sick every day.
Second, I really struggle with appropriate emotional control. One thing that really helps me is to remind myself (and remind myself over and over again!) that feelings and emotions are powerless in and of themselves. It's what I DO as a result of my feelings that is important. So, feeling sad is okay, and I can choose to do something unhealthy because of it, or I can choose to do something that keeps me well because of it. It's a super simple concept, but it's been challenging for me to put into practice. However, it's been rewarding, too, when it works!
Thanks very much for sharing with us. ~Gretta