I feel the same way Wolfsong - the less public humiliation, the better....on both sides. Your goal isn't to "destroy" each other. If one is destroyed, it only destroys the other one....then all that destruction gets handed down to the kids.

From what I hear, your goal is to be able to live and breathe in this world with some peace of mind. As much as you've tried, you can't live and breathe under the same roof with your husband.

Focus on being as fair and private as possible with the details. Don't "go for the jugular" or hit too deep below the belt, so to speak - but don't sacrifice yourself for the sake of fairness either. If your husband can understand you mean business, maybe he will help in some way to contribute to an amicable split. Paper roses and empty promises will no longer suffice.

Remember....your heart belongs to you, as well as the decisions you make in life. There's no need to "perform" for us - you owe us nothing. Mmmmkay?

Here ya go, sister.....in case you're in need of some salt.