I have to agree with what most people have said. I think it would be a good idea & a wise decision to talk to your kids about what is really going on. Just listen, let them talk. I would also take a break from your bf. If you are living with him see if you can stay with a friend. This is not a good situation. I also feel that if you want to get your kids back, you are going to have to break it off with your boyfriend. Is this really the kind of person that you want to be a role model to your kids?