I don't quite understand why you are anxious. I'd be sad for my boyfriend and the ending of his relationship but that is for him and how he feels about it to cope with. He may not be that concerned with being called names, if he isn't a "tool" then it shouldn't bother him. I'd like to have ex-friends act a bit nasty about breaking off the relationship when I didn't feel I had done anything wrong; it would show me better that the relationship was in fact finished and I would not feel as guilty than if someone just "stopped" and said it was over.

My DH and I had friends of 20+ years suddenly just not be friends five years ago under less than understandable circumstances and it still has me feeling like I must have done something wrong today, like there might have been something I could have done to change the situation. There's less closure if it just "ends" after all that time than if someone behaves badly?