Hey there I understand some of what you're saying. I have issues thinking about my boyfriend's ex. Thankfully we live far away from her right now, but when I met him they were talking on the phone alot, without me knowing. And when I found out I got pretty upset, especially since inadvertantly it had been kept from me. The continuing friendship between my boyfriend and his ex then crashed and burned - my boyfriend stopped talking to her , even though I said he didn't have to (he cited a variety of reasons, I'm still not 100% on it). From what I heard she was not so nice about it. And I probably shouldn't have been shown some of the names she called me. Not so nice.

Really there's nothing we can do as current girlfriends of someone who has an ex to solve this. I mean, if we're not comfortable being around the exes we can't change that. They're our FEELINGS, and they are exes for a reason. These things happen. But it would be nice if neither side were nasty about it and a bit more understanding (both the ex and the current girlfriend/us). Sadly emotions tend to run high and as a result reactions tend to be a bit... extreme. Sorry this happened to you, and hope it gets better