Distressed, I didn't say that your culture was abusive. What I'm saying is that when those at the top of the hierarchy are abusive, that the hierarchical culture doesn't support you stepping out of the hierarchy to fix things. It's like the important thing is for the hierarchy to stay intact and anyone's attempts at upsetting it are punished. I'm I making sense now?

So your protests about the abuse are falling out of line of the expectations of the hierarchy. People just focus on putting those at the bottom back in line. They aren't looking at what the real problem is or how to fix it or anything.

I'm not sure how much understanding that you will get from your uncle. Has he ever listened to you before?