Thanks for the welcome!
As for what he said that was especially cutting, he said that I had lived a charade my whole life, being someone I am not, wearing a mask that was not me....
and that I had no skills to manage BP without meds like some can...
and that I didn't have insight and he wasn't sure I could ever change, and if I did commit to it (which he doubted) it would be a long, hard road and my T had her work cut out for her!
Other things he said were very direct and cutting and he minced no words but I could take them because I could see the truth....these things were hurtful. But then I have realized I don't have to own all his words....and thankfully my T didn't think I had to own all of them either, especially the no insight thing!