My therapist asked me this for a few different reasons----
My son has asthma. I spent a majority of his life sitting up with him on my lap with his back against me feeling his his lungs gasp for air while wrapping my arms around him holding books and reading those books or playing music and singing to him, all the while trying to remain calm myself and will his medication to hurry up and kick in before he stopped breathing, while a friend was driving over to take us to the urgecare to have him nebulized.

I wasn't in therapy since having him until I became suicidal and had to sign him into foster care for a year so during it all no one asked me what I was feeling about it until then so I pretty much ignored myself while getting him treatment.

When I was finally in therapy and my therapist asked what was going on with me through it all at first I told her it didnt matter. She pushed the issue that it did matter and pushed me until I told her what was going on.

After verbally telling her what was going on I realized every time I had to hold and will my son alive I was also willing myself to stay calm and stay alive because I was experiencing sensation flashbacks of not being able to breath and so on myself from the abuse I went through and the fact that I needed to save myself by calming myself with my la la land and music years ago gave me the strenght to calm and save him in the present, and in return saved me in the present while experiencing the flashbacks by my remaining aware and consciously calming myself. It was that conscious awareness that she wanted me to tap into during therapy and in my outside therapy life. I could still use the tools that are in my la la land without entering la la land by doing those things I do and imagine in la la land while remaining aware.