I'm glad that you've seen something you can work at with him. The truth is never one sided, there's always a tension between one point of view and another... the actual "truth" is somewhere between them, in the tension. I think you've "got" this secret, even if your therapist hasn't yet. I am glad you did, because it means you have something to work with.

I just saw the King's Speech, and I keep wanting to talk to people about it... there's a scene where the therapist, Lionel, really wants to get a truth across to the future King, and he over steps his mark, and the patient walks off. They nearly lose their relationship. Fortunately for "Berty" (future king) and, as it happens, Britain and the free world, things do work out... but it's an interesting example of how the therapeutic relationship is a fragile thing. Honest to God, I don't have stocks in the movie or anything... but go and have a look at it... it's a great movie, particularly for those of us in therapy.

And... I'm glad that it sounds like you're doing okay. Keep well...and give me a shout if you ever really need someone to talk to.