I have spinal pain from cysts makeing there home on or near the nerves of my lower spine. I've found that warm bath with both naking soda & epsum salt works really well. I add different essential oils lavender is my favorite. I just found a really good pain specilist and it helps to have her. She understands pain and we are trying differnt ways to deal with it. I think it sad your family says it doesn't matter. Sounds like you need someone else to talk to about your pain have you tried a therapist just for you?