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Old Jan 05, 2006, 07:49 PM
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> First off, everyone needs to stop over-analyzing everything I say just because I'm an admin

Ah. Sorry about that. I wasn't sure whether your comment was intended as a polite warning that this sort of conversation was inappropriate to the boards or whether your comment was intended as supportive to people who aren't much interested in these sorts of conversations... I just wanted some clarification... Thanks for providing that... I didn't mean to jump on you...

> I'm also a member here, and I'm entitled to write stupid things once in a while just like everyone else.

Absolutely I think everyone is entitled to write stupid things once in a while. In fact... I'm sure I use up more than my quota ;-)

> I would guess that most members don't find this conversation terribly useful, but perhaps some do.

My experience of support boards... Is that some people aren't terribly interested in these kinds of conversations, that is true. Some other people... seem to benefit from them greatly, however, and they seem to appreciate the opportunity to think things through... And sometimes... They benefit from thinking critically about their therapy situation etc and they feel less alone and less 'crazy' for going through some of the unhelpful dialectics that can emerge in therapy sometimes. For example... If someone is in the position where they really don't think they endorse the cognitive distortions but where their therapist insists they do... If they are giving themself a hard time for the number of cognitive distortions they think they exhibit... If they find that challenging their thoughts doesn't seem to lead to an alteration in their emotional state... If they find that their therapist or they themself is giving themself a hard time for not doing cognitive restructuring correctly etc etc.

This kind of process can help... One feel less alone. Less like a freak. Less crazy.

At least. Some people find this (and I am one of those). Some people find that they benefit from reading even though they don't join in. Some people find that they don't follow all of the conversation but they may benefit from the odd thing that resonates. Some people find that they disagree and that spurs them onto thoughts of their own and the thoughts that they have help them.

But...

Some people don't like this process that is true.
And my hope is that... Those people are going to be encouraged to put me on ignore if that is the case. That those people are going to be held accountable for their own responses if they respond negatively to my posts. That they will be held accountable / disciplined for lashing out at me, and that the converse of that will also obtain and that I will be held accountable / disciplined if I lash out at them.

That I will not be silenced because other people choose to respond negatively and that conversely that other people will not be silenced should I choose to respond negatively to them.

And I do of course appreciate occasion...
And I would not launch into a theorietical critique on a thread where someone is wanting support.
Or if I did...
I would fully expect to be told that that is inappropriate (either by admin or by a member)
And I would accept that...
And apologise.

We shall see...