I related to this post, but as a woman who's been attracted to other (and younger) guys that I wasn't married to. So I feel the condemnations of the
adulteress (what a word BTW! What is this, Bible study? Let's form a circle and stone her?) is a bit harsh.
From your original post, we don't know much about this woman, except that she made a mistake, and seems to be pulling away from that mistake. She sounds like she still cares about you.
I don't think she sounds like a remorseless monster. I think she's been unhappy in her marriage, found what seemed to be a way out, and then lost the courage to make a real change in her situation in order to be with you. Unfortunately, you're becoming a casualty.
I agree with most advice here to extricate yourself from the relationship (as she's doing) and mourn it. And it sounds just incredibly painful. It will hurt for a long time! Good luck, and I know it's a cliche - but try to learn from this.
Also - another truism, but what does the relationship say about you? Why were you so intensely attracted to an older, essentially unavailable woman? Are you also emotionally unavailable? At first blush it would seem a young guy like you should have your pick of women closer to your own age and status. I'm not judging you at all. These are questions I've had to ask myself in my own struggles with just these kinds of dead-end crushes.
Anyway, like everyone else is saying, you deserve better!
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Originally Posted by Soul Quake
If you don't want the truth, don't read any further.
This "relationship" was dead in the water as soon as an affair began. You are the other man, you will always be the other man, and nothing more. Not once in the post do you mention her uttering the word DIVORCE. She has no intention of leaving - she practically admitted it. She doesn't respect you, she doesn't respect her children, her husband, and in all probability doesn't respect herself either.
At 25 you're willing to throw your life away for an adulteress (you by no means are innocent, either) whose trust you would undoubtedly begin to question down the road, because if she can do it to her husband of ten years and father of her children, she most definitely will do it to you.
She will end it if you don't. Hopefully you can gain some insight by seeing the errors of your ways. Think about her husband and her kids who she parades around in front of you.
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