Hm, well, there isn't much I wouldn't tell T but what makes a big difference to me is the choosing of words. I would never be blunt about my doubts of therapy and HER to her face but in the end, I tell her the same things, just more gently I suppose.

Would I tell T: "I sometimes want to get up and shake you because I feel like you just don't get it!!"? (just as an example, I don't want to do that )No. But I'd say: "I feel like sometimes you don't understand what I'm saying".

I really wouldn't want to hurt her feelings.