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Originally Posted by Suratji
Why the secrecy with the T? If we go to our T to help us, don't we need to tell all in order to find healing? Although I will feel uncomfortable if my T sees my posts right now, we haven't been working together long so I haven't had time to get to everything. It would actually save me time and money if she would come on the forum and read my stuff - then I wouldn't have to fill in so many things that there is no time in session to cover.
So, if you're in therapy, why do you hold back? Have you decided definitively that there are some things you won't tell T or are you just waiting to get the courage?
I know for me there's a huge fear but I am doing everything I can to get through that fear. I don't believe I will find my own healing until I'm as honest as possible. It's going to take a little time I've learned.
Funny thing is (and my T and I laugh about it now), when I had my 1st appt. with T, I read her a list of my goals and I truly truly believed I would see her about 3x at the most. Hilarious, huh?
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I thought I would only be in therapy a few weeks.....and so did T, at first, until I showed her some poetry I had written and she saw the huge pain lying under the surface and it was clearer that there were old wounds and a history of emotional troubles.....
Is choosing to not tell T about PC holding back or hiding or being dishonest? I felt for myself I should tell her at some point in time.....but I wasn't feeling like it was urgent either....
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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
My $0.02, one doesn;t necessarily NEED to tell ALL, in order to heal; half of the stuff I could tell my T would bore her socks off , stuff she couldn't care less about.
It's my feeling that every client knows what's necessary to tell, in order to find healing, even if it's difficult or even **** hard to do it;
but when the client judges that something is not necessary to tell for healing, I don't really think it could be called "secrecy", that seems a bit hard.
Certainly not something as innocuous as posting on a (public, mind you) social forum of people with a common experience, even of therapy.
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If it doesn't feel necessary to tell T about posting on the forum, then maybe it's not....and it's technically not like keeping secrets. The client does have the right to decide what to disclose and when....some things it IS better to disclose, though painful, because it is important therapeutically (
trigger......like telling T a SA trauma that happened to me). Telling about something like posting on this public forum may or may not be necessary therapeutically......if it
feels like secrecy and is troubling someone and it's feeling like hiding something that should be shared, then maybe it is therapeutically necessary, though.
Just a few more of my 2 cents.....
I like seeing all the good answers, too!
