Hi, I'm new. Starting today.

Ok, so I need to know if this is considered a verbally abusive relationship or not. Or any relationship advice would be nice.

I've been married for almost a year, and it seems that whenever I do something wrong, whether big or small, my husband immediately feels like he has to punish me like a little child. He says stuff like "I don't know if I can trust you anymore" even when the mistake is I forgot to walk the dog...
He also always whispers "stupid" or "dumb" under his breath and when we get in arguments he never listens to me. Instead he says things like "How could you be so dumb?" or "That was a stupid thing to do"
Whenever I ask him for help too, he can get very impatient because he thinks I'm not as smart as him and he just gets frustrated and stops helping me and treats me like I'm stupid. He always brings up mistakes I've done in the past too to make me feel worse.

Because of all this, I am frequently scared to death to ask him for anything or to express my opinion.
I have incredibly low self-esteem and a self-image (I have all my life but now it has just worse).
Every time he gets mad at me I always think it's my fault. I am constantly beating up on myself and considering suicide.
I always feel like I am contributing nothing to the world and I'm just a waste of space.
He seems to not care that he has hurt my feelings, instead he just asks me to grow up and stop being so immature.
Then he says "oh I'm sorry.. I should be a better husband blah blah blah, I need to change".... but then it's the same thing the next time I make a mistake. He isn't trying to change at all.
He also things I have bipolar disorder and He has said that he wants to be with someone "who has a control on their emotions and who isn't bipolar".
I don't have bipolar disorder. I do have depression and anxiety though.
A good example is I just barely got in a car accident and the first thing on my mind was - "Ryan (my husband) is going to be so mad and he's going to kill me and he's going think I'm so stupid." I wasn't even care if I was hurt or not or anything. And sure enough, right when I told him he just said "you don't know how incredibly mad I am at you right now. Why were you acting so stupid?! You don't care about our property or anything" Which was NOT the case! It was a honest mistake!
Shouldn't the first thing he says be, "are you ok"?!

I know I'm not suppose to be scared of my husband! I want us to be equal and to treat each other like we're equal and to build each other up.
I want to feel like I can come to him for anything.

Thank you for reading my long rant, I'm sorry it was so long. Please help me.
And please help me know if I need to get out of this or if it can be fixed.