Hi Betsey,

I lost my only sibling and brother when he was 38. It will be 32 years Jan. 24th. So I've been swimming awhile too. Some days are easier than others, and sometimes I feel like all the grief I have endured in my life will pull be to the bottom, and I will drown.

Regarding the loss of a child, husbands definitely grieve differently. This can exacerbate other issues in the marriage. Not to scare you, but make you aware, there is a 67% rate of divorce among couples who have lost children. You can be proactive about this, and make sure your do fun things together and go on dates, and rediscover the joy of being together.

Feel free to PM anytime you think I can help.

Jane