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Originally Posted by wingin'it
Do you want him drinking and smoking around your kids? Even without bipolar, he doesn't seem to me to be a good choice if you want to build a stable, loving home for your family.
He isn't willing to work on his own problems...why try to take them on yourself? Like they say in AA, people hit rock bottom before they accept help. He sounds like he is well on his way there.
It is different to offer some support to a person who is really trying to cope.
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No, I don't want him around my kids the way he is now. That's one of the reasons I haven't introduced them yet. He agrees, too, for what it's worth.
I have enough problems of my own, I can't take on his. Not trying to really, just trying to understand as much as I can. I probably know what the big answer is, I just don't know how to move forward. I feel like I want to give him a fair chance before declaring the situation impossible. But then I did that with my ex, too, and wasted a lot of time waiting for him to change. Almost 13 years. Never happened.
