(((((((((((((susan))))))))))))))

I really wish that I had some answers for you. I understand your saying that you feel you can't take any "drastic" measures. I really do. I wonder about that myself if hubby were to resort back to some of behaviors from the early days. I'm in NO position to go anywhere.

Please stick closely to family and are you still seeing T? Possibly you should see t a bit more often while you're gaining support through this and trying to understand this last episode.

I hope and pray that as he's getting older, he realizes how inappropriate this is and wonder very much if ANYTHING he did would be ok for another man to do to one of his most loved family members?

Hubby here has never been physically abusive. However, there were some behaviors early on that were controlling/emotionally abusive. I asked him how he would feel if a man treated his baby girl as he'd been treating me. I took it a step further and asked him if his daughter would have the right to start "hating" this man. It was a turning point in his behavior.

I hope alot for you right now, Susan.

KD