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Originally Posted by TheByzantine
Hello, LovebirdsFlying. I am curious if you think it might be efficacious for you to write out for your husband what you posted here. Perhaps I am wrong but I think he might view the problem you are dealing with as a competition. You also might consider having him respond in writing.
Writing out my concerns has helped me hone in on exactly what I want to communicate. Sometimes, I start by saying what I am not writing about if I am concerned another might go off on a tangent.
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That might help. It's certainly worth a try. If it's a short note, that is... he seems to have some reading comprehension problems and can't digest it if it's very long. I've also tried diagrams, with limited success.
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Originally Posted by madisgram
i find his behavior condescending. controlling.
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You could be right, but what makes it tolerable is that he doesn't *know* he's being controlling, and isn't trying to be. There have been so many men in my life, from my father to my ex-husband, who know they're being controlling and see nothing wrong with it, because they think that's the way it's supposed to be. Hubby doesn't fit that profile.