Go with your gut feeling! I've had those kinds of Ts before and now I have a different kind. I'd never go back to the kind who wouldn't be a "real person" with me and who wouldn't allow contact in between sessions, and most important, who would refuse to touch me."

But, you said you HAD Ts in the past who were warm. So, which kind do you want/need? Do you think this T will help you more than the "warm" one? We don't have to suffer in therapy just because we think it's "what will heal us". Sometimes we need a healing touch and not a reserved formal T. But it's what works for YOU, not any one of us.