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Originally Posted by blueoctober
Perhaps setting a time line on it for yourself i.e. I will speak to him about it and then give him 3 months to start showing some changes. Otherwise I think it becomes a never ending issue with no end in sight.
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That is really good advice.
Thank you for that.
That also means I have to hold myself accountable to that timeline, too. I have to be ready to cut things off if necessary. It's hard to do that when you're co-dependent and fearful of being alone.
Maybe if I write out some stuff in a journal or letter I can get my thoughts organized and feel better about talking to him. I don't know. I may have to just give him a letter, because in person he doesn't listen very well.
Then maybe I just have to find the money and time for my own therapy...again. Sigh.