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Originally Posted by turquoisesea
Valen it sounds like you have to have a serious talk with her about this and things need to change. it's just not healthy for you. I know you've said you've been with this person for 7 years but that doesn't mean it's right, or that it doesn't need to be worked on. I'm glad you have a home of your own possibly in the future. Have you considered couples counseling or setting hard boundaries?
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I have considered couples counseling. I am actually starting Individual counseling soon. And then I will go from there. I have no idea where to even begin setting boundaries. I do worry, and maybe needlessly so, that she will not wish to do counseling with me. Simply for the fact she has commented more than once she thinks it is a waste of time after spending so many years in counseling with her son.
I just.. I... I dunno. I feel responsible for her and her son. I am the sole provider. I guess I am afraid that if things don't work out that I would be leaving them without a way to ensure they keep the house. GAH!!!