lovelygirl, I really feel for you. It's all so complicated, because you chose this T because of certain strengths in his approach, but that comes with serious limitations. Plus you may still be grieving for your old T, and new T's response must feel so much harder to accept when compared with old T's much looser limits.

I respect and admire you for choosing what you need over what felt so warm and comfortable. But, I think part of that strength must be in monitoring whether this is indeed really what you need, and in feeling confident enough to change your mind if that's what feels right.

I think you have exactly the right idea- keep showing up, keep talking to T, and keep posting here.

I hope things become a bit clearer over time for you