I know many Ts give hugs these days, but I don't think many would actually "hold" their clients. I brought it up with my new T too, and she said she wouldn't do it, but she will hold my hand.

Holding someone: what does that mean for adults anyway? We're physically too big, aren't we? I think of the child part wanting my T to hold me, and I think of myself as small then, but realistically I don't think it could work. Or, maybe you mean like sustained hugging? Is that holding? If I ever cry in therapy (don't hold your breath) I wish my T would hold me like that, but I know she won't.

Hugs are nice, though. I never got hugs for 15 years of therapy with any of my various Ts. Of course I would have rejected a hug anyway, but they didn't try.