Yesterday my pdoc said that I am too defensive and don't trust enough.

It is true that I am pretty defensive. In the animal kingdom it is a bad thing. When one bear stares the other in the eye, it means they are inviting them for a fight.

But I honestly don't feel like I am that defensive!

If anything the opposite!

Can you fix this with therapy or is there like a minimum amount of emotional EQ and if you're below that you don't benefit?

I really don't know???????