Susan,

I'm so sorry you are experiencing this

I think what Kimmy had to say was very good-- I hope saying something like --- "How would he like his daughter treated that way?"--- will help him realize how he is making you feel.

Not sure if this would help you... but when my husband is going through a rough time and he starts acting agitated... recently-- I've been trying to really listen to him and help support him--- as I do believe that most abusers are very scared and/or sad people inside. Or another option -- if he would agree to it, could be going to see a counselor. If he won't go, maybe you could just go.

Thinking of you and hoping things turn for the better-- please be safe.

mandy