You start crying? That is if you do actually let yourself. I know a lot of people don't and find this very difficult and I was one of those before until my T talked to me about it and said "it is ok to cry in here you know"

She prefers when I cry instead of smile and try to make a joke. Humour was my biggest defensive mechanism in therapy for the first year or so when I started seeing her. She said that hard part about that was the fact that I am actually pretty funny and I always make her laugh, which she liked but didn't like it in the context that it was happening in.

Does your T pass you the box of kleenex? give you a hug? sit closer to you? Just stare at you? Ask you questions?

Just curious. Mine used to pass the kleenex box to me because I always sit on the couch and they are usually in between the other 2 chairs. Once she came and sat with me on the couch and held my hand and I cried on her shoulder until she said that she was getting soaked from my tears.

Usually now when I cry she sits in her chair and watches me. So I watch her too. (it was kinda weird the first time) She tells me to feel the sensations of the tears rolling down my cheeks. And to try to notice any other sensations that come with it. She knows that I don't cry very much at all and will only cry infront of certain people and she said commented on that and that she is happy that I have chosed her as one of the people that it is ok for me to cry infront of, She will also help me stay grouded if I try to run and dissociate from it which still happens a lot. And I almost forgot she gives the most awesomest hugs too!!

Just wondering what your T's do when you cry -IF you cry that is!