Babs, that sounds pretty familiar. You've perfectly described what enmeshment is like. It sounds like you also have a pretty good understanding of how to deal with it, and how to keep the same thing from happening with your children. The trick is how not to go too far the other way and be too distant, like I tend to do. It is so hard to find the right balance when you didn't grow up with it. I think sometimes any amount of closeness with anyone feels restrictive.

Rap