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Originally Posted by Sweetlove
Whenever I cry with T, he just sits there. At first I was really uncomfortable and never wanted to cry in front of him. I just couldn't help it anymore though, the tears came more and more as we got into deeper stuff. It really bothered me that he wasn't a bit more compasionate, but now I totally get him and accept it. He doesn't touch me, but he comforts me in other ways, by talking gently and encouraging me to talk more or calm down. It is a bit odd crying with someone just staring at you, but therapy is an odd relationship  |
It
is odd, that much I know I really do know!
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Originally Posted by sailboat
I teared up once. My T just sat there.
It didn't bother me at the time because I was so busy keeping the tears in (yes, stupid I know) but I really hate that she is the kind of T that just sits there.
I need touch as well. It doesn't help being stared at if you have a huge issues with crying in front of others.  |
My T told me that she understands that touch is my primary love language (relating to the 5 love languages book, which I've read, too....) So she understands the need, but her boundary is what it is, and she has no obligation to bend it for anyone just because of what their need/want is! Ah well. I have a huge issue with crying, period, never mind crying in front of others....think maybe I will forget about crying in session. If I want to feel like I am crying alone, I will cry alone, in private, at home, in the dark!
Or here, virtually.....