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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank
Yesterday my pdoc said that I am too defensive and don't trust enough.
It is true that I am pretty defensive. In the animal kingdom it is a bad thing. When one bear stares the other in the eye, it means they are inviting them for a fight.
But I honestly don't feel like I am that defensive!
If anything the opposite!
Can you fix this with therapy or is there like a minimum amount of emotional EQ and if you're below that you don't benefit?
I really don't know???????
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Well, in the wild it varies, if you look a tiger in the eye, they are more likely to back off. Probably shouldn't ask how I know that.
I think if your therapist says you are defensive then that is something they are picking up on. It maybe valid or not. Perhaps you could talk to them about it.
Also, I think trust is something that can be developed, but it also has to be earned. You're threshold for earning that trust may simply be higher than others.
Sometimes though it just comes down to a leap of faith and taking a risk to trust. That's ultimately what it came down to with me, taking that leap over and over again. Overall, it's worked out quite well.