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Old Mar 12, 2011, 02:36 PM
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I hope you won't terminate over this, WP. This does not mean your T is not trustworthy. The Samaritans talked to you extensively and then the psychiatrist examined you. They were concerned and reported that concern to your T. Who is he to contradict them when they have had this firsthand contact with you and your self-admitted taking too many sedatives? It is absolutely a matter of him wanting to play it safe and assure your safety. Plus, as Farmergirl wrote, this is a liability issue. To be blunt, if the hospital let you go and you committed suicide, Michael would lose his license. He would be derelict if he contradicted these mental health professionals who spoke with you directly. Your T for being safe, caring, and doing his job--are these reasons to dump him?

You write that the termination was "bound to happen sooner or later." Why so negative about this T? Did you two not get along? Was he not helpful to you? Did you plan that your relationship with this T would not work out? Do you have a history of things not working out with Ts? If the latter, I especially urge you to try to see what happened from a different perspective and try to continue with this T. It sounds like he cares deeply for you.

WP, was the prescriber of your meds notified of what happened? I am worried that you have prescriptions to benzos when you may deliberately take too many. This kind of drug is not one to be messed with. As lovelygirl wrote, they can have a bad reaction with alcohol. And taking too many can cause respiratory depression. It's a serious matter so no wonder the Samaritans were concerned.

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Originally Posted by WikidPissah
He started off well, but 2 crisis events showed him he was in over his head with me. I am such an F up.
What behavior of your T showed he is in over his head? IMO, he reacted fine in this second event you described--he trusted the judgement of the health care providers who had direct contact with you. How did he react in the first event? Do you think you are testing him in some way by seeing how he reacts to your crises? What behavior do you want to see from him? You are not a "F up", WP. You have been under a lot of stress, you have been through cancer... You are doing the best you can. Don't you want the continued support of your T through this difficult time? You can go back to talk to your T and work this out. It could be true that he is not the T for a client who is frequently in crisis (although I don't see evidence of that from what you've written). This is something to discuss with your T and get a referral if it doesn't seem like he has the training you would like your T to have.
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Thanks for this!
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