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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
It is odd, that much I know I really do know! 
My T told me that she understands that touch is my primary love language (relating to the 5 love languages book, which I've read, too....) So she understands the need, but her boundary is what it is, and she has no obligation to bend it for anyone just because of what their need/want is! Ah well. I have a huge issue with crying, period, never mind crying in front of others....think maybe I will forget about crying in session. If I want to feel like I am crying alone, I will cry alone, in private, at home, in the dark!   Or here, virtually..... |
I guess I'm lucky because I don't want a hug or touch from T. And she hasn't given it. I don't know if that's because she senses that I wouldn't respond well to it or if that's her policy.
She gives me something that I value most - silence. It may seem weird but I feel support and comfort in that quiet space when I'm extra emotional. Sometimes we'll just sit there quietly for a minute or so. It gives me time to try to center myself and I know she's there for me.
I've never felt like she's 'watching' me in a intrusive way. It's more like a caring concern that I'm enveloped in.
So, sorry for those of you who need touch. It's must be awful to be denied what you feel you need.