Welcome to PC unsure30 - I'm sorry this is happening to you. I think you should have one of your guy friends tag along with you and let him know nicely, that you no longer want contact with him. If he causes any problems after that, then call the police and get a restraining order. He sounds abnormally possessive and dangerous. You're not under his control and he doesn't have the right to order you around.

Don't be fooled into thinking he'll change or you can tolerate this behavior by modifying your behavior - you'll end up living with the feeling of walking on eggshells. Take his behavior as a flaming red flag and steer clear of him. Be firm and get the authorities involved if you have to. Best of luck.