I know that feeling when others think what you are going threw or that you are in pain isnt a big deal. I have RA and had 2 joints replaced (I have a post in Cronic Pain). It makes it even worse when a doctor doesnt believe that you are in pain. They all go off of that stupid pain scale..pretty much saying if you are not crying you are not in pain. People that have lived with pain for a very long time can tolerate it but it does not mean you dont hurt! It took me many years to find that doctor that would actually sit and listen to me and not judge me because I am young (27) and think im only looking to get "high" . It does sound like you do need someone to talk to or a support group of people that are going threw what you are. I know it makes me feel better when I can talk to and relate with others because we are dealing with the same things. You dont have to sit there and feel like you have to convince anyone that you hurt. Plus its always good to vent!