Well...missbelle....My friend is alot like me...and I am just as you say.I see both sides...I have never met someone I didn't like,but couldn't love in some manner.That's sort of my issue.I am wide open to loving.I keep getting hurt,so does my friend.While we have no choice but to go forward... at the same time...a part moves forward...bits remain on the injury.There's nothing I can do about that.For me it is my nature.I am a lover of all people.I can get downright pissed...and never speak to someone ever again (to keep from getting hurt.)But at the same time,I can't help but love them.I feel it a wise policy...first time...shame on you...second time ...shame on me.In essence....you learn much from the past.But...due to my instability of personna...ie,borderline,and multiple personality disorders....There is no constance in my ability to feel detached...deciding to erase a person from a place in me where they can hurt me...then stick with it.So in the end...well...I guess I am a very disorganized soul.Just so shattered and slivered and never constant.I guess we both have to take in life one breath at a time.We may be unable today to be whole...mayhaps tomorrow...not so.And the earth spins on.........WO.olf