unsure - it sounds like he is very controlling. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. Basically everything you do is by his call, not yours. Yes you have guy friends. Yes he has girl friends. Big whoop. He can't tell you you don't matter (essentially what he is saying when he says you're not dating) and then turn around and get jealous when you talk to other men. Personally, I would get out. He sounds like he only wants to control you and things like that usually only get worse.