If you mean honor as in keeping and building that memory and feelings to the point where its upsetting constantly. I agree its not healthy.

for example Im riding on the bus every day at rush hour which is also a time when the bars start opening for business around here. So drunk people start getting on the bus bar hopping. and every time a drunk passes me I experience a panic attack. one day I finally figure out why - my abuser got me while he was drunk. So now I have the missing piece of the puzzle but every day I still get the panic attacks and body memorys. If I do nothing about this except sit there every day knowing at such and such a time these drunks are going to get on the bus and Im going to have panic attacks and memory flashbacks, and then of course I get worked up agitated even more. no thats no healthy

but if you mean honor as in recognizing that feeling everytime it happens I consider that healthy.

Same situation as above but the difference is I recognize and acknowledge this is going to happen and because I know this I can prepare myself before the ride for what I know is going to happen - take relaxation music, a notebook, maybe drawing supplies. and I make up a plan that when I recognize the feelings starting I will do this this and this. Then I get on that bus and the feelings start and I say to myself ok here we go I can feel this this and this (write it down) start the plan turn on the music watch out the window and write down any changes that I see on the passing streets, At every corner or stop check in with myself to see how I am feeling and how my plan has effected what I am experiencing in my body.

I am still honoring that memory by not ignoring it BUT I am taking care of it in the process which is a very healthy thing to do.

So it pretty much depends on what you mean by the words " honor the memory". For me just knowing like in the first situation does no good. Its the second situation that works for me. I consider the first situation the beginning and middle of memory work - figuring out the memory and trigger. and the second situation the conclusion or ending of memory work on a memory. And all of them together - knowing the trigger, memory and using coping skills solves the problem.