I appreciate all the support everyone has given me here.

Nola22: Since you asked these questions I will answer. They were good for me to take a better look at myself.

"When he dangles his other relationships/liaisons in front of you, do they really make him seem more appealing as a life partner?"
It would seem quite obvious what my answer should be. However, it has been so painful that he has chosen someone else over me. I view it as reflecting upon me as a woman - that apparently I just wasn't good enough. But deep down I know this is ridiculous and unhealthy considering his character. But I see now that he will never be able to truly commit to any woman. Therefore I couldn't see him as a life partner. I doubt he even knows what that role even consists of.

"Do you want to potentially spend the rest of your life with a man who raped you in your sleep while pregnant during a time he purported to want to care for you?"
Absolutely not!!!!! To this day he still claims he didn't mean it that way. His intentions were to make me feel good. Yeah.....whatever!

"Is this man going to be a decent father figure for your daughter? Do you want your daughter exposed to the whirlwind of drama this guy whips up everywhere he goes?"
He has already proven by leaving all his children behind to move elsewhere that he isn't fit to be a parent. I do not want my daughter to get caught up in the abuse he dishes out. If he is able to treat me this way how could he ever respect his own daughter.

Jadedmoonbeam, I checked this website out. It has been very helpful. I continued to research more about abuse and came across something quite interesting. I'm no clinician but I think my ex has some narcissistic/borderline personality tendencies. I felt as if I was delving into the dynamics of my relationship with him. Quite the eye opener!

After not hearing from him for 4 days I finally texted him. (couldn't help it.....) He said he had been busy. Although I felt in my heart he had gotten back with his little gf. I was right. He said he was getting ready to choose me and dump her but didn't because I've been acting nuts. I asked why he'd ask if I'd ever marry him. He said that he wanted to make me feel better and not hurt so much. Unreal.............
Well, he wanted to fly my daughter and I out there to visit in a few weeks. He wanted to stay with us overnight in order to get up with our daughter through the night to bond. Now he isn't able to because his gf won't allow it. When he told me this I couldn't believe it. So he was allowing her to keep him from bonding with his child, the very thing he crucified me for doing to him. I was furious and got so mad at him. How could he let someone he's just met take the very thing he so wanted away from him, yet remain with her? But when I kept him from bonding with our daughter, or so he says since I didn't go off to California with him, which robbed him of precious time with her - he dumps me for it.
He didn't know what to say when I gave it right back to him. I honestly don't think he saw that he was being hypocritical.
So I told him to not contact me until he got his priorities straight! Now he's using his usual guilt trip on me about denying him his daughter because he can't stay with me. This was last night. He's called me today and texted a 'how are you two today?'. But that was it.
I am extremely emotional right now and don't know what to think. Everything he was adamant about us being a family and how he wouldn't let anyone come between him and his kids has been tossed aside. All the torture he put me through for almost a year. All the ranting and raving about what a terrible mother I was to keep him from bonding with his unborn child - GONE........... Less than 2 months......gone!
There were moments today where I felt strong. Then other moments when I felt sad. I don't know what to think at this point. I cannot wrap my head around what is happening. I wanted to share our daughter with him. At least this time when I do visit. I fantasized about us being a family and having that experience. All our plans to do that aren't even relevant anymore. It was funny because when I asked that I thought that was what he wanted - his reply was, 'well I did want that, but right now it can't be that way'.
I've decided to write up a NO CONTACT CONTRACT. I have to cut him off. But there is a part of me that wants him to feel bad for what he's done. Not so much what happened when we were together but what he's done to me by choosing this other girl.

I don't know............my heart has been ripped to pieces. I just wish I could get a better grip on things and see him for what he truly is. Not romanticize this dead beat.......who isn't even worth another tear. It's so difficult to know someone for loving you then turning into someone completely different. I feel like I'm dealing with two people at this point.