My oldest brother and I are four years apart. We're close but we don't really talk about the past, mainly because our mother never talked about it. Yesterday we were in the car driving for 3 hours and actually got the chance to talk. We talked about our childhood, he and I grew up together but during the summers I was send away to live with my father. Well, we mainly spoke about our ex stepfather. My mother married him when my brother was 9, me 5 she left him after 6 years.

To make this short:
Our stepfather in the beginning was in the military, religious FANATIC (anything that involved church we were there), good role model (basically, the father my brother never had)

Then he changed: cheated on our mother, physically, emotionally, spiritually abused her, threatened to kill her multiple times. Choked her once until she couldn't breathe only let her go because I walked in their bedroom. Isolated her from her family so he could completely control her.

My brother is 24 and I'm 20. I believe our stepfather was one of the many things that screwed up our lives the most. He thinks our stepfather was the best thing that happened to us.

I'm I right, or does him being older saw the situation a lot differently then I.