i had two brothers and two sisters. all much older than me. the brother that, age wise, is closest to me lived at home at the same time til he was in his 20s. his story about our life is so different from the rest of it that you'd think he lived on another planet. every thing that he does, negatively, he blames on our deceased parents. none of the rest of us live as he does. we don't do the things he does. we accept responsibility for our lives. he doesn't. he says it was a hellhole. it was bad, but it wasn't anything like he tells it. i never saw the things that he says happened. and believe me, i was a curious and observant kid. i believe that people just take stuff in differently and process it in a way that perhaps someone else doesn't. or it could be easier for him to remember it differently.

and i'm certainly not saying that your brother is bad for remembering things differently than you do. it sounds to me as if you have a pretty good/bad picture of what went on. and i know that bothers you. don't let it take over your thinking. i just detached from what my brother believes and let it go. i can't change his mind and i'm not going to about it. live and let live. love, pat