I suggest you get a book on being more assertive, if you have a problem getting them to take no for an answer. I'd be nice at first, but eventually, I'd become quite firm: "LOOK. I. don't. want. any. Thank. you." And if they still kept at it, I'd start pointing out their obesity and health problems, which you mentioned they have, and give them a bunch of health facts. They would probably consider me rude at that point, but it's not rude, IMO. Some people force you to be "rude" to get your point across. If that wasn't enough, I'd start yelling. OR, I might just jump to the last point: "Honey, come on. I want to go home." (Hopefully, your husband would support you in this; if not, well, there's another problem to deal with. And, for the record, he should be standing by you during all the previous mess of trying to communicate "NO" to them.) If he wouldn't go with you, drive yourself, if possible. If it's not, you might look into calling a cab or taxi, or at least going somewhere to wait by yourself until your husband was ready to go home (and again, if he let you do this, then he's a problem, too). Since you said your husband already made an excuse, I'm assuming he's a good guy and will support you.
I'm obese, and I envy people who eat right and keep healthy, whether they always have, or developed the skill later in life.
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