Okay, think about your work/schooling and how much you enjoy/love it and how it is made for you; that can be the same with relationships with a significant other!

Most of how well we "fit" something/someone is based on us and our own mental state, maturity, perspective, whatever one wants to call it. I didn't get married until I was 39 but, when I found the guy and did, it was the "right" guy for me. I didn't settle for him, he was part of 30 years of therapy! Did I tell you my story of when I started therapy for the second time with my therapist (two periods of nine years each, 1978-87 and then 1996-2005, we married in 1989) and told my husband over dinner that I would be spending a couple hundred extra out of pocket a week for the foreseeable future and started adding up all I'd spent on therapy from 1970-1996 and came up with some huge number and asked him would he be willing to pay that much for my health and happiness? He replied, "I would give to my last penny if it would help your health and happiness" and I know he meant it (another time I wrote a coworker/friend a "blank" check for $15,000 and gave her my gold credit card to take to the judge as surety that we would bale her out so she didn't lose her house without asking him; that was a fun one to have to tell him when he got home that evening but I vowed to get a better job to help pay for that and did!).

I believe there are those that are righter for us, help us grow and be better people than others and that there's no need to settle. Other people in our lives are there to help us; either obviously like my husband loves and helps me or "negatively" where we learn about ourselves or others in adversity, about our "shadow" selves that everyone has. I don't think "settling" is very useful in that regard?