What I like is the opportunity the other gives us to be our best selves. I know I've done things I wasn't proud of and sometimes thought my husband would "punish" me or be angry as my stepmother would but I keep making myself tell him the truth and stand up to myself. It's hard not to tell white lies but it's kind of like I feel about being on here, at PsychCentral, where I have decided I do the best I can writing posts, responding to others or posting myself and I don't delete or alter my posts, even if people don't like them or misunderstand them or find a flaw in what I have to say. I back up myself 100%, if I'm wrong I want to be the kind of person who admits it (and then gets on with it, without guilt) and is grateful for the correction, the new perspective or whatever. I do that with my love relationship too; I have to be able to be myself, first, and part of that is my respecting myself enough to tell my truth, come what may. I think a good relationship learns and grows just like the individuals in it just as a flawed relationship seems to get worse?