Perna, that is very true. Maybe that is why I feel differently about actually wanting to work on whatever problems we may have. I feel like in past relationships we fed off each other in a bad way. Whereas, noticing issues we have actually makes me look at myself more. And realize things I do to cause some of these issues or make them worse. I have never been in a relationship that makes me want to be a better person or live up to someone else's expectations about myself. He, admittedly, holds me to higher expectations than other people in his life, and I do the same. And sometimes I wonder if that is a bad or a good thing. But I feel in the last 2.5 years we have been together I have done more work on myself than any other time in my life. I notice things I do that could be detrimental to myself, him or us. Maybe that is why I'm thinking about this in the first place?