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Old Mar 13, 2011, 04:58 PM
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Originally Posted by unico View Post
Spaceid, I know it is hard, but I agree that focusing on the present and enjoying it is the most important thing. We can't usually predict how relationships will turn out and obsessing over the fact that it might eventually end will just make it more likely that will happen, due to the anxiety and the pressure on the person you are dating.
You are so right! Lately, I've just been focusing on the fun we have together. Also I've been thinking about little things that I would like to happen in the future with him, but without being ignorant in thinking that everything will end in a fairy tale. Basically, I've been training myself to think differently. Whenever I have doubt I tell myself not to think like that and think of the good times we have. I still worry sometimes, but so far so good. I'm not going to fool myself into thinking everything will be perfect, but everything is a learning experience. I know what I want and I want me and him to eventually development into a long-term relationship, but I don't want to be naive. So I just have to take it one day at a time. Hopefully, things will work out. The one problem I still have to deal with is the idea of me being interested in someone else if this doesn't work out. It seems impossible to me and that is what makes me worry. But he's not perfect, and neither am I, and that is okay. I'll more that willing to put in the hard work that goes into a relationship, I just hope that he feels the same way. Thinking like this has made me feel A LOT better. Does this sound like a step in the right direction?