I think it depends on the settling. If it's a core value or belief, or personal health than it's bad. If it's small changes to you, I think that's ok. It's really dependent on the people for me, so I don't think there's a clear-cut answer.

By small I mean small though. There HAS to be a balance. You have to give to eachother, and you have take from eachother, you have to learn and be seperate beings from eachother while maintaining a close bond. Not an easy balance to acheive