Hi there, I'm not really a partner of someone like this I saw the forum and was curious then I read your post, and I hope you don't mind me talking my head off a bit? (if you do lemee know)

Something struck me when I read this - you're talking so much about things that you do for your partner but you never mentioning her ASKING YOU to hold back? Has she? Or is this reluctance coming from you?

I've in some ways been on the other side of this. In many cases especially a little while back I would blame EVERYTHING on myself, when my boyfriend tried talking to me about certain relationship things, I would kind of go crazy, dissociating and all sorts of things, "my fault... my fault..." And I DO remember his frustration, as well as mine.

Bottom line - I didn't want our relationship to suffer because I couldn't handle things. I think you need to be open with each other. You have needs too. Be careful how you approach a topic, but do bring it up or at the very least say it's there and you need to talk when she's centered and not triggered by anything. You could even help her center so that you can have a more productive talk.

Good luck!