wow i want to say that i am sorry for how i have been behaving about my son .fear has just gotten the best of me.i feel i have been kind of selfish (i tend to get this way)thank you guys for pointing out that i should be proud and not upset that with all the heartache that my son is ok and is able ans should help however he can.i should never want to deny him this ability.nannypat my son is in communications i hope maybe he will be able to have some hand in being able to restore the ability for your family to be able to talk and check in with eachother.my heart really does go out to all these people affected