thanks karebear. I really hope she gets the point I dont know how much clearer I could possibly be. I just hope T and I resolve some of this...and I dont end up in more pain instead but my T is really good at digging and sometimes I dont like it. Ha! Thats her job because it helps make sure everything is out and we are dealing with all the cards. Well now it is just a waiting game...now thats really not fun but I can make a couple hours till I see her. You all are wonderful thanks for the support.